Acknowledging the Pain to Heal

Posted by on Jul 19, 2016 in Blog, CranioSacral Therapy, natural childbirth, SomatoEmotional Release, Uncategorized | 0 comments

When we consider the concept of evolution, we often think about change happening over generations.  We look at Darwin’s work meticulously charting changes in beak size and other factors that can help a species adapt to their surroundings.  We debate over whether the digestive tract of the human body has evolved to adequately process the increased consumption of grains thanks to the Agricultural Revolution.  But, what about the evolution of each of us as individuals during our human experience? The human brain reaches full development around the age of 25.  That is not to say that the kitchen timer rings and suddenly our growth is complete.  There is always an opportunity to grow, change, and evolve towards our greatest potential.  What matters most is the ability to let the ego go and be open to change.  This may be easier said than done.  When I talk about evolving in your human experience, I am not referring to adding an inch to your height.  I am referring to literally allowing pain to destroy that which no longer serves you on your journey.  (I am in no way endorsing seeking out pain, staying in a volatile relationship, or inflicting it on others.) We as a culture shun pain.  If someone tries to talk openly and honestly about pain, we say they are complaining, they are weak, they are self absorbed.  The over-medication of our escapist society with a surge in prescription drugs, alcohol consumption, and any other feel-good substance do nothing more than numb us from that which is there to help us.  These tools do have their place, but we are all individuals.  We each have our own body chemistry, physiology, life experience, beliefs, situation, & outlook that can affect the role of these medications.  Prozac may work great for one person, while another may respond better to CBD oil.  It is important to find an Integrative Functional Medicine practitioner to help manage supplements and medication. In the Army, we were constantly told (and it trickles down to the lowest rank) to, “Suck it up, and drive on!”.  The most common cure-all was 800mg of ibuprofin and water.  It was ingrained to put mind over matter and just keep pushing through.  I understand that the mission comes first, and sometimes we do need to FIDO (F*&k it, drive on).  But, when it is all said and done, restoration and reset are paramount. Soon-to-be mothers often choose an epidural or an elective cesarean section because they are afraid that they cannot handle the pain.  When I was 9 months pregnant, a friend gave me the best advice for labor.  “Savor the exquisite pain,” she said.  She went into a story about with her...

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How Having a Child Made Me Savor Living in the Moment

Posted by on Aug 21, 2014 in Blog, choice, happiness, motivation, natural childbirth, post-partum, Uncategorized, Wellness coaching | 0 comments

Ok, so our society has gone from idolizing the wizards of multi-tasking to coveting mindfulness and being present in all activities.  I would love to think that we are finally dumping the ever-busy super mom ideal and instead promoting consciousness and slowing down a bit.  However, trying to fit in family, career, fitness, household duties, and social obligations often leaves us spinning through the day in a non-stop juggling act of efficiency, well-planned errand routes, making the most of naptime, and some how getting to the gym or yoga studio (normally the first to get ditched off the “to-do” list). In my opinion, there are benefits to both being present, but also managing the ever-growing laundry list of the modern mom.  When I was a helicopter pilot in the Army, multi-tasking in the cockpit was fun.  I would get into the flow of the process; effortlessly managing radios, monitoring systems, navigating, and working like a well-oiled machine with a solid crew.  In this effect, multi-tasking taps into the brainwaves of fluid focus, and I would feel fierce and effective.  It was a rush of excitement, a zen calmness as my mind easily shifted through what to do in that moment and what was to come next as we’d cruise by the rolling terrain.  Compound that with a flight of 3 or 4 other helicopters in formation, and it was the most amazing dance of synchronized crew coordination.  Back in my Army days, that was my bliss.  (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls this Flow.) I left the Army three years ago.  Since that time, I got married, had a baby, finished graduate school, and started my own company.  Bliss to me these days is a quiet moment to myself.  Pure and simple.  I chuckle to myself as my multi-tasking abilities have transferred from managing the cockpit to doing the laundry, feeding the cat, cleaning up the kid and half of his breakfast on the floor, starting the dishes, and somehow finishing my morning cup of coffee before noon.  In the limited time that he is in childcare, I cruise through website and social media management, work with clients, knock out some baby-free errands, and of course a few cherished moments to myself in the gym or yoga studio.  These days, the kid-free trips to the gym feel like my “guilty pleasure”.  Of course I can take him with me to the gym, but it’s nice to crunch through my coach’s programming without tending to a rambunctious toddler in between sets. Working part-time, I can see the benefits and trials of both the stay at home mom, and the full-time mom.  I love our fun mornings on days he is with me.  We can go to Mommy & Me yoga...

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The 7-Hour Tabata: A Story of Natural Childbirth

Posted by on Jan 5, 2013 in Blog, CrossFit Mom, drug-free, natural childbirth | 1 comment

*Disclaimer* This is my personal account of the natural birth of my son.  The thoughts and opinions within this testimony are my own.  All pregnancies and birth experiences are exclusive to the individuals involved.  I respect the necessity of particular birthing options within the realm modern medicine when applicable.      It is easier to understand my personal stance on childbirth by my upbringing.  My mother gave vaginal birth to 6 children.  I was number 3.  My two youngest brothers were home births, and I always considered all-natural childbirth as the way to go.  It is my hope that this story can provide both information and inspiration for any woman considering a natural, drug-free childbirth. Baby Sterling, 9 hours old, and ready to go home!      At 8:45pm on Christmas Day 2012, my water broke while my husband, AJ, I watched Star Wars: Return of the Jedi.  I called my doula from The Mothering Way, Ryka George, and the attending midwife at the Austin AreaBirthing Center-South, Vicki Meinhardt, to share the news.  We spent the next hour finishing the movie and resting up for the upcoming birth time.  By 10pm, I had experienced a few contractions, or as we like to call them, birth waves.  To me, they felt like muscle spasms in my hip flexors and round ligaments surrounding my uterus.  From 11pm- 12am, the contractions came in increasingly regular intervals of 7-4 minutes apart.  Since my water had already broken, more fluid was expelled with each pulse, and I spent most of that hour sitting backwards on the toilet.  They increased in intensity to a point where I no longer felt I could talk to my doula or midwife on the phone.  We had learned in our birth class that this was a physical sign post of Active Labor, and it was time to head to the Birthing Center a few miles from our home.      We arrived at the Birth Center at 12:30am, and were immediately greeted by Vicki and ushered into the Folklife Room.  Of the three birth rooms at the Birth Center, the Folklife Room has the warmest feel to it with low lights, hill country décor, and soft colored walls that give a womb-like feel.  All rooms there are fully equipped with a huge walk-in shower with a built-in bench, large bath tubs, a queen sized bed, and individually decorated with a hip theme.   I headed straight to the bed to keep myself relaxed and started my birthing music playlist.  Vicki checked my progress and I was at the same point of progression from my last belly check a few days prior; 95-100% effaced, 2-3 cm dialated, and my cervix had moved posterior.  She...

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